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Becoming the Mother of Black Children

When I adopted my Black sons, I thought that raising them would be just like raising white children. After all, all children need the same basic things – food, shelter, clothing, love. I was aware of racism in the most blatant forms, though I thought it was rare. I didn’t know about systemic racism or bias.

I was fortunate to come across a group of people who were direct and honest about racism and the experience of growing up Black and non-Black POC in a white family and the very real experiences of racism in the world.

That was about 5 years ago.

As I began to learn more about racism and the systems of oppression, it was like I was discovering a whole other world that I had previously not known existed. I had been able to live in my white bubble, unaware of the experiences of POC all around me.

As I learn, I often have to deal with my feelings of fragility. It is easy to become defensive when I learn about more ways in which I am being racist. It takes intention and a lot of listening to grow from that rather than to tune it out and keep going as I am.

Becoming the mother of Black children has stretched me in ways that I never expected. I hope that I never stop learning.

-Jenn Lynn

Jenn Lynn is a white adoptiveJenn Lynn's portrait (1)

mom of two Black sons. She has spent the past few years learning from people of color how to raise her sons to one day be confident Black men and how to dismantle whiteness.

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